By Don Vaughn
Between 11 and 20 percent of veterans who served in operations Enduring Freedom and Iraqi Freedom will experience related symptoms in any given year and the condition affects a significant number of Gulf War and Vietnam veterans as well, according to estimates from the
National Center for PTSD.
The most commonly reported problems associated with PTS include intrusive memories or nightmares of a traumatic event, feelings such as numbing or guilt, and symptoms of hyperarousal, such as hypervigilance, irritability, and sleep problems. Understandably, these symptoms can
have far-reaching effects on a veteran's children, mental health experts note.
Dr. John A. Fairbank, a psychologist and codirector of the
UCLA-Duke University National Center for Child Traumatic Stress, has been studying the effects of trauma on children for decades. In the 1980s, he was part of a study that interviewed Vietnam veterans and their spouses.
“We took a look at how the children were doing from the spouse's perspective,” Fairbank explains. “We compared the families of veterans who had PTSD with the families of veterans who did not, and not surprisingly, we found higher rates of reported problems
among the children whose veteran parents had war-related PTSD. There was a significant difference.”
According to the
American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress, a parent's PTS can influence a child in numerous ways, depending on age and other factors. The three most typical patterns among children are
- the overidentified child, who experiences secondary traumatization and might experience some of the same symptoms as the veteran parent;
- the rescuer, who assumes the adult role to compensate for the parent's difficulties; and
- the emotionally uninvolved child, who receives little emotional support from the parent.
These children are more prone to depression, anxiety, and difficulties at school.
How parents express symptoms of PTS can influence the relationship they have with their children, notes Dr. Paula Schnurr, a psychologist and executive director of the National Center for PTSD.
“One of the symptoms of PTSD is feeling numb or cut off from the world,” Schnurr explains. “The extent to which that is communicated to a child can have the particularly negative effect of distancing the child from the parent. The child may feel unloved or less connected to the parent in
that circumstance. And that is children across all age ranges.” However, people vary in the extent to which they feel numbing or how they communicate, Schnurr adds.
“I've had clinicians tell me about parents who can communicate with their children but not anyone else,” Schnurr says. “Their children touch them differently. So it's not a foregone conclusion that someone who comes back with numbing is going to be unable to communicate love or have feelings for a child.”
Consequences of anger
Another common problem is anger, Schnurr notes. “Fortunately, many people with PTSD don't display significantly angry behaviors, but if they do, I think there are obvious problems that can emerge,” she reports. “In extreme cases, anger can really challenge the parent/child
Young people can respond to a parent's PTS symptoms in a wide variety of ways, experts report. Among toddlers, this might include regression, such as when a toilet-trained child suddenly refuses to use the toilet, or engaging in frequent tantrums. Older children
might engage in potentially dangerous behaviors, such as getting into fights, participating in risky activities, or using alcohol or drugs.
“Some children really try to behave,” says Schnurr. “They over-attribute their ability to control the situation, so they stay out of mom or dad's way or try to prevent mom or dad from getting angry. They may also remove themselves from the situation. Children may also act out because
they are angry themselves. In more extreme cases, they may have trouble with school work and general acting-out behavior.”
Living in a household with an emotionally distraught parent can have an adverse effect on a child's overall quality of life, observes Fairbank. Sometimes the effects are indirect. For example, a child might do poorly in school because he or she is kept awake at night by the affected
parent's pacing or because the child is concerned about the parent and can't concentrate. Similarly, if a parent is frequently angry or irritable, the child might be reluctant to invite friends over to visit, resulting in social isolation. “There are lots of ways these things can
affect children's functioning within the family, within school, and with peers and friends,” confirms Fairbank.
In an effort to better understand how PTS affects young people in childhood and later in life, Fairbank is working with the
Millennium Cohort Family Study, which has collected information from nearly 10,000 military families, including active duty servicemembers and veterans.
“The Millennium Cohort Family Study is specifically designed as a longitudinal study, and we hope to follow these families for 21 years,” Fairbank notes. “This project will allow us to look at the impact of PTSD and other significant war-related health and mental health
conditions and see how the children in the families are doing.”
There is research in other areas of trauma, Fairbank says, which suggests that when children are exposed to trauma at a younger age, the impact tends to be more complex. “It has a broader range of outcomes, the younger the person is at the time they are exposed to the trauma,”
Fairbank says. “But what we don't know at this point is how the age of the child relates to the parent's war-related PTSD. We hope to find that out through our research.”
According to Dr. Ron Avi Astor, a psychologist and the Lenore Stein-Wood and William S. Wood Professor of School Behavioral Health at the University of Southern California in Los Angeles, two of the most important factors that can influence how a
parent's trauma will affect the rest of the family are family communication skills and outside support systems.
“From our work, we see it's not the PTSD alone or even the experience of war alone that determines the outcome of a child or family,” Astor explains. “While the military parent is away, the other parent may struggle with the organization of the household. If they have good support, it's a
nonissue. If they have bad support, it can be disastrous. If you add PTSD on top of that, without a lot of strong social support, I think that makes things even more difficult.”
Being a parent with PTS can be extremely difficult. But help is available for those who seek it.
Fairbank recommends a resiliency-based resource known as
Project FOCUS. “It is really focused on talking about deployments before they happen and upon return, as well as all of the issues that affect children, spouses, and servicemembers,” Fairbank says. “It does it in a very family-focused way.”
Early prep is helpful
Advanced preparation for a military parent's deployment and return, and the issues that might pop up afterward, also can be beneficial, says Astor. “The more the family can prepare psychologically, socially, and emotionally and speak openly about it, the better, depending on the age
of the child,” he explains. “Families also need to situate themselves in a strong, caring, and supportive family and community setting.”
The VA is there to help, says Schnurr. It provides a variety of family services, including education, consultation, and marriage and family counseling, for immediate family and caregivers. Additionally, many support programs are in place, including a
parenting self-help Web-based course tailored to the needs of veterans and active duty servicemembers facing mental health and reintegration challenges.
The VA also has partnered with the UCLA Welcome Back Veterans Family Resilience Center and the Military Child Education Coalition on pilots of clinic-based parenting education initiatives.